"I think it's really important that you never ever hate your ex more than you love your children and I've never hated Ed, so I'm lucky... Because we're disrupting their lives and they don't have any say about it. We're the ones that have to be grown-up and behave and treat each other with dignity and kindness." Newlywed Valerie Bertinelli on her decision to invite ex-husband Eddie Van Halen to her New Year's Day (01Jan11) nuptials.