Gwyneth Paltrow has once again spoken about her divorce – sorry, ‘conscious uncoupling’ – from ex-husband Chris Martin, revealing that she had wanted a third child with the Coldplay singer.

Speaking to the New York Times in a new profile piece this week, Paltrow admitted that she hadn’t expected to receive the backlash she did at her memorable choice of words.

“I was really saying we’re in a lot of pain, we failed at this, we’re going to try and do it in a different way,” the 45 year old actress explained. “But I was so raw that I didn’t anticipate… I think that was an instance where it really hit me that an insouciance with language from me is different than from somebody else.”

Gwyneth PaltrowGwyneth Paltrow split from Chris Martin in 2015

She and Martin, 41, had two children together, daughter Apple (14) and son Moses (12) before she filed for divorce in April 2015. However, Paltrow revealed in this new interview that she had wanted to try for a third child.

“All I’m saying is it’s not nothing. I really wanted another one,” she said.

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She’s a step-mother to new fiancé Brad Falchuk’s two similarly-aged children Isabella and Brody, but she now cites age and her business commitments to lifestyle website Goop as a barrier to having any more children.

Reflecting on her divorce, Paltrow continued: “Really, the question becomes how much of your ego are you willing to check at the door, and can you let go of spite – because if you can do those things, then you absolutely can have a friendly divorce. It’s just how much control do you have over your own behaviour, really, at the end of the day.”

Chris MartinChris Martin of Coldplay

“Chris and I had days in the beginning when it was really hard. I didn’t want to see him. I didn’t want to eat dinner with him, and he didn’t want to eat dinner with me. In our case, we’re really lucky because we see eye to eye. Chris and I are really lucky because we really agree fundamentally about how to raise the children. We have similar principles and values. I absolutely trust him … I’m just going to focus on what I love about Chris, and there’s so many things to love about him, and I still do that.”

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