Gwen Stefani always thought she would marry her first love.

The No Doubt singer used to date the group's bassist Tony Kanal and she was so besotted with him she was convinced he was the man she was going to end up with forever.

Gwen - who wrote No Doubt's smash hit 'Don't Speak' about their split - said: ''That first love you have is so huge and it was, like, so overwhelming and I remember defining myself by that. Basically I was so inspired by this love there was just nothing else. I wanted to get married, I wanted to have babies. It was such a short dream, you know what I mean? I didn't realise at the time there is so much more out there.''

Gwen - who now has two sons, Kingston, six, and four-year-old Zuma, with her rocker husband Gavin Rossdale - is now glad Tony dumped her because it made her the person she is today.

She told the new UK issue of ELLE magazine: ''It unlocked a whole other side of me I didn't even know I had. Ever since then, I don't remember that little girl. She was different. I think that's the thing: discovering I had something I'm passionate about and I think I'm good at. That defines me now, more than just Young Love or whatever.''